Black Polyamory

Just watched Teyanna Taylor's podcast with Bumble on Polyamory. Dating is already confusing as hell. Now, there are all these different lifestyles that people have adopted because people like having options. So, let's get into it:




A triad polyamory relationship is an arrangement between three individuals. Not all three need to be in a sexual relationship inside this triad, and a triad polyamory relationship can take several different structures.


A closed triad is where the poly relationship involves the poly triad and no outside partners. These three individuals form an intimate relationship where they are committed to each other and don’t seek external partners.


A fully open triad can take on many forms. However, the simple definition is that this relationship involves three people who engage in a romantic or sexual relationship with each other. When the triad is fully open, each of these partners can have relationships freely with other people. Not everyone in the triad will know the partners they have outside of their three-way relationship.


Fully open triads often occur when three close friends decide to date each other or when a couple with an open relationship decides to take on a third person romantically and sexually. Open triads can also form for any length of time. Some may occur at a swinger's party and others as a long-term arrangement.




To be polyamorous means to have open intimate or romantic relationships with more than one person at a time. People who are polyamorous can have any sexual orientation, and polyamorous relationships can include people of different sexual orientations.


Unlike open relationships, polyamory is characterized by emotional as well as sexual or romantic intimacy between partners. In contrast to infidelity, adultery, or extramarital sex, polyamory is consensual and disclosed to everyone involved. 


Now, I know that this was a lot but I wanted to give all the proper information because many aren't well versed in those terms. Being a woman of a particular age, I'm a firm believer that you should state your intentions upfront. It'll save everyone a lot of heartache and time. One thing I have noticed is Black people are starting to become more forthcoming about their sexual desires which is refreshing.


Our generation receives a lot of grief because we aren't doing things like previous generations before us which is cool. We're supposed to evolve, the generations before us had plenty of broken relationships. Which resulted in the broken homes we see today. I know that last statement is going to piss a lot of people off.


However, it's God's honest truth, how many of us have secret family members? If the generations before us were as perfect as they portrayed these types of things wouldn't be happening. Nor would we be suffering from the consequences from our grandparents or parents.


Some say that this lifestyle is beneficial. Others say it's harmful to others, to be honest it's not one I care to partake in. For me it's too much of a gray area and someone is going to get jealous. You have to be a strong person to partake in this arrangement. I'm woman enough to say that this isn't for me at all. After learning about this lifestyle though its beneficial for those who live life on apologetically and those who like being promiscuous responsibly.Only because those who partake in this lifestyle know what they want upfront and there are no discrepancies.


It takes a courageous person to live their truth knowing they'll be shunned by society and family members because it's not the status quo. Times may be strange right now but, I admire those who are willing to stand in their truth. At the end of the day we're not here for a long time only a good time.



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