Pride As An Ally

Coming to the end of pride month, I have seen a lot of unity and compassion. The Pulse massacre highlighted many prejudices the LGBTQ community face. I took it upon myself to attend pride so I can get the conversation started. To show that all they’re no different from the anyone else. Inclusion is unanimous and respect is warranted.
Most just think of Pulse as a terrorist attack but it was deeper than that. This was the man who suffered from serious demons. His insecurities caused major carnage because of the stigma. No one likes being ostracized just because they don’t follow the norm. For black women, things can be difficult at times and its taboo within our community to be gay. Some of the elders say, “it’s hard enough being black, why to add something else to it”. So, I asked some of the party-goers do they think gay and race issues tie into each other?
Or were these issues separate from each other? Each person I asked stated that they tie into each other. If opposition was faced it was because of gender or race. The questions I asked partygoers were simple ones, like the attention received was it permanent or temporary. The answers I received were split, but they could take the good out of a horrible situation. One party-goer told me that the attention is permanent because now the conversation has been started. Another answer I received has they thought the attention was temporary after the attacks. She told me that it was highlighted for a brief period time then the attention disappeared. Before these attacks, the LGBTQ community didn’t garner much recognition before the attacks.
In wake of this tragedy, some would think that it’s easier to come out. That isn’t the case there was a couple I met who is engaged. She told me after coming out her family totally disowned her. This was hard to hear because I couldn’t fathom my parents turning their back on me. Pulse should’ve taught us to appreciate that life isn’t promised and there are much bigger issues at hand. 
One more thing I noticed as I was people watching was self-harming. Some of the people I spoke with had evidence of mutilating their bodies. That was disheartening to see because it must really eat away to keep your true self a secret. This is a prime example of looking-glass self-theory being displayed.

Also asked did the massacre alleviate the prejudices that were normally faced. This was a split response as well because the only time their sexuality came up in social conversations. Or in the social events where their lifestyle might not be welcomed. I was told by the majority that this is who they are and it should be accepted. Some people I spoke to told me that their family disowned after coming out. Others told me that bringing their partner to family functions or church was welcomed. Their partner’s family welcomed them with open arms after being disowned by their own.
This is a recollection of my first pride, I wanted to get the conversation started. I got inspired by other articles that I read and felt the need to spread love as an unbiased ally. Being a black woman in this day in age this day age, there are quite a few similarities. Also, to clear up misconceptions that people may have which is another reason why I attended. I was always told the best way to find out something is going straight to the source.

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